Have “trans” people never considered the possibility that those of us content to self-identify simply as people might not give the tiniest and most solitary fuck about their sex or their gender or the contents of their underwear or their preferences when it comes to exploring the contents of other consenting adults’ underwear?
That’s how society works. That’s how we avoid mayhem. By all giving the absolute minimum of fucks about the proclivities and peccadilloes of anybody other than those with whom we have some kind of relationship – and hardly ever then. Not giving a fuck about every detail of others’ anxieties and confusions is adaptive. It benefits survival.
We all have them. We are all riddled with anxieties and ambivalences and confusions and inadequacies and fears and more fears. We learn to cope with them or we seek refuge in substances or we seek help or we kill ourselves. And we develop a tolerance of others doing likewise in our vicinity so long as their substance misuse doesn’t directly affect us and so long as they don’t land on or near us when they jump off a tall building.
What we don’t do. What people have never even attempted whilst retaining some vestige of what we choose to regard as sanity, is to expect and demand specific constitutional and legal protection for every aspect of our psyche and our physical being.
Society simply could not function were we all to insist on “self-identifying” ourselves into ever smaller and more narrowly, rigidly defined categories and demanding the same ‘rights’ as accrue to every other category of whatever size. Society cannot function where every category of people at every level regards itself as beleaguered and entitled to protection from every other category.
Democratic society cannot exist where there is no pooling of personal sovereignty. It cannot function where there is no willingness to compromise some part of ourselves for the sake of creating a functioning democratic society.
A need to find personal affirmation in the antipathy of others is every bit a disorder of the human psyche as the need to find targets for pointless antipathy. Society is sane and liveable only to the extent that each of us declines both to look for people to hate and people to be hated by.
Society is sane and liveable only to the extent that we all decline to give a fuck.